Tuesday 29 March 2016

What is fear? - Motivation

Fear is a great motivator. It’s also a pain in the ass.

On an evolutionary level, fear makes sense. Back when life was far more dangerous and far more survival-centered, a keen sense of fear was pretty effective at keeping humans out of dangerous situations.

But now that we are generally free from large predator-related threats, our fears often manifest in ways that keep us from moving forward.

These fears are no less natural than the fears our distant relatives must have felt, but they affect us differently because the world is different now.

Instead of being afraid of sinkholes, giant snakes and things that go bump in the night, we’re now afraid of change, uncertainty and unfamiliar territory.

But here’s the thing about fear: It hides all of the really good stuff. All of the exciting “next steps” and the big life changes are crouching behind some amount of fear, no matter how small. We will never find out what life has in store for us if we don’t learn to walk through it.

So, here are five great reasons to feel the fear and then move forward anyway:

1) Fear means something important is about to happen.

For our primitive selves, this often meant imminent danger. However, in our modern lives, the presence of fear much more often means that something is about to change, and with change comes opportunity.

There are essentially two types of people in the world: those who run from fear, and those who square their shoulders and face it even if their hands are shaking while they do.

It is easy to run from fear, but living in fear also makes it easy to stay in one place forever. You decide. The best gifts are often the hardest ones to unwrap, but does that mean they aren’t worth the effort?

2) Embracing fear means embracing growth.

Sure you could stay at that old job forever. You know what’s going to happen tomorrow; it might completely suck, but it is familiar and humans are wired for familiarity.

But here’s the thing: If we aren’t afraid at least some of the time, we aren’t learning. A life of complete predictability and familiarity is not a life that is dynamic and ever-changing.

In order to become bigger, better, smarter people, we need to embrace fear when it shows up in our lives. This could mean dumping that dead-end job in favor of something that makes you happy, ending a relationship that isn’t working anymore or moving to a new town.

It could mean learning to play the kazoo or committing to a walk-about in Scotland. Regardless of what “it” is, learning to feel the fear and do it anyway can only make you a happier, more capable person with some really interesting stories to tell.

3) Even if you “fail,” you’ll be happy you tried.

You know that saying: “Sometimes you have to jump and build your wings on the way down.” Well, sometimes the wings don’t come in all the way. They aren’t quite big enough, or they don’t show up at all, and you hit the ground a little harder than you anticipated.

But, hey, now that you’re down here on the ground, you can head off in any direction you choose.

Moving into fear is hard to do because it exposes us to vulnerability, or the possibility that the scary new thing might not work out. So, sometimes we fly. Sometimes we crash and burn, but either way, we’re guaranteed to end up somewhere new.

4) Fear happens; it’s a good idea to make friends with it.

Life is scary, and freak things happen. Nothing is certain, and constantly running from fear means, well, constantly running.

But it’s a well-known fact that people who can embrace their fears and face them head-on are happier, better developed and more equipped to handle the ups and downs of life.

So, sit down with fear. Get to know it; take it out for a cup of coffee, and find out where it came from. You don’t have to love it, but it’ll do you good to understand it.

5) Every time you overcome fear, you are stronger.

When we look back on the most exciting and growth-filled periods of our lives, we can see that they were also some of the most terrifying.

Think of it this way: When we are 85, we aren’t going to remember that one Tuesday we sat at our desk for eight hours. We are going to remember skydiving, falling in love, falling out of love, moving to a new city, taking a huge chance, falling flat on our faces and getting back up again.

When we walk through our fears rather than run from them, it is impossible not to emerge as a stronger person.  

Fear can be a hindrance, or it can be a motivator. If we let it, fear will hold us back forever. If we face it, regardless of how big and insurmountable it feels, we find that we are more capable and more interesting than we ever could have imagined.

So, pick up the fear; check it out, acknowledge it and then move through it, anyway.

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Saturday 26 March 2016

Being poor is the root of all evil !

They said money can’t buy you Happiness

But I met a poor man who wants to be rich

But I have never met a rich man who wants to be poor

To me that would be the equivalent of a skinny person wanting to go on diet

And before I give all you readers’ field for your comments, let me address this really quick

Yes, there are skinny people who died, but they are known as anorexic

This is commonly regarded as the illness within the society.

Yea, I am religious,

But I never read anywhere where it said that I’d be happier poor in any of the scriptures

They told me that money is the root of all evil

I had no response when I replied but, Wasn’t money created by people ?

If a farmer plants a seed and waters it, does he not take the responsibility of its growth?

Would you now then not agree that you reap whatever you sow?

I read somewhere – “Money can’t buy you happiness, but neither can poverty.”

 

Ask the beggar if he’s happy sleeping on the pavement……

The shopkeeper who only smiles to a customer because he sees an opportunity for a payment

I asked my friends and elders what day of the week makes them happiest, just to see he may say…………

Their response was “payday”

Are you happy when taxman requests his back?

What about when you receive the letters full of bills from a postman ?

Or with your insurance, TV, Phone bills, MOT and other taxes….

But I was told money starts rumors, divorce, and discriminately laws,chores, discourse, obligatory wars…..

Let me address this topic….. Is money the root evil of all these problems?

Or is the root of all these problems the lack of it?

Now please,don’t confuse me to believe that my life would be better just because I can buy a pair of jeans with “Levi’s” stitched on the back pocket…..

But I would definitely be happier if I could afford to buy my family a house with that profit

 

DONOT CONFUSE HUMAN GREED WITH HUMAN NEED

 

People go to war over oil because they want more…

People kill the love because they think they don’t have enough..

 

If anything the money is innocent party in all of this….

My verdict is that you can only judge the money is, in the way the person earns it – is it honest or is uses with filthy

But all and all sat in front of the jury that makes the user of money, rather than money, guilty  

Think about it………

You know the preachers left the most of us telling that we don’t need to be rich….

And the money shouldn’t trouble you……

And he adjusted the Rolex watch on his wrist and stepped into his new BMW.

I was never unhappy as a child, although we weren’t the richest….

Because my mom and dad did their best to keep up the appearance……

But what I always wondered was did not knowing how they were next going to provide for their children ever made them happy as parents…..

But if you grew up in Wood Green you would truly understand…. Because round here we never had a role model who was a rich woman or man

But you know that was quite sadly/

It was always the poor people who said shit like “Look how much money he has, but is he truly happy?”

Well……

Unless you are looking through someone else’s eyes from where I am standing now……

I have no reasons to believe otherwise…..

I know everybody goes to school for all these years just to merge as a happy student

Then they will claim – “Look at all these celebrities that have money and they are unhappy….”

But let me clear about that…

I am sure that there is just as many unhappy broke people, but you don’t hear about them.

”Money is the medium by which earthly success is measured”

Or maybe success is measured by how many people you bless… I don’t know…..

I know that money is the reason Africa has a lot of respect for Bono….

I am sure he’s a blessed a lot of people

I know they say you shouldn’t chase money …. And make us feel like it’s a desire for the pagans….

But after prayer they ask us for pour donations…

Is it the fear of failure that leads us to believe the desire of wealth is wrong…..

Money cant buy you love – AGREED

But don’t you love those around you to want to provide them with everything that they need?

Am I am not advocating love and money because only a fool would love an object that cant love him back…. If you love those around you, preserve within your means to make their living better.

And money is just an object…… dont blame it for anything because its mainly a tool….

It will not solve your problems unless you learn not just how to make it, but rather make it work for you because in the end of the day even Bill Gates went broke…

That what I believe…..

But like I said, this is only my view and like any view one sided it is, because its that of a broke ma. Hopefully this is only part one and I will hit you up with the other side when I get rich…..

#peace

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Monday 21 March 2016

Everyone has a story in life !

A 24 year old boy seeing out from the train’s window shouted…

“Dad, look the trees are going behind!”

Dad smiled and a young couple sitting nearby, looked at the 24 year old’s childish behavior with pity, suddenly he again exclaimed…

“Dad, look the clouds are running with us!”

The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man…

“Why don’t you take your son to a good doctor?”The old man smiled and said…“I did and we are just coming from the hospital, my son was blind from birth, he just got his eyes today.

Every single person on the planet has a story. Don’t judge people before you truly know them. The truth might surprise you.

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Thursday 10 March 2016

Society ! || Truth vs Reality ||

Society is the only thing which cannot be defined accurately. Becoz it changes with time.

The society consists of different types of personalities. Some of them may be double faced, while some of them may be trustworthy, while some are selfish and the list continues.....

The society judges you according to your wealth and success(results). You cant let society tell, who you really are.
Because its exactly the same society that says "Abortion is wrong" but then looks down on the teenage parents. Government which preach peace but endorse wars.
Pastors that preach charity but own private jets.
Imams that preach against greed but all of them are fat.
The same society that sells products to promote nature hair, looks and smooth complexion with the model on the box half photoshopped and has fake lashes and hair extensions.

This society talks abot love stories, and constantly read love quotes but cannot see somebody happy in a relationship.
1001 things are done to seperate them or ruin their life.

This society gets jealous when you reach the heights of your success, when you are happy and enjoying your life, Just because they arent you. So they try to pull you down by shaking the ladders of the success and make feel depressed and low with all those fucking things which dont even make a sense...

This is exactly the same society that watches porn privately on the internet but if someone is caught having sex they behave like as they dont even know what sex even mean. These are those type of people who watch a drama movie with his mates and when a kissing scene comes they quickly skip the scene and act so innocent but when the mates are gone they rewind and watch that scene about 50x times.
Huh! Our innocent society
I bet some of us talk nonveg only with the ones who are extremely close and act innocent in front of others because to maintain a great profile and due to some bad societal reasons...

The reason why boys have open nonveg talks whereas girls don't.....
In our society(India) girls try to be most innocent and act as they dont even know what nonveg talk means because there are some fucking bullshit guys who when come to know that this girl is too frank and talks nonveg, starts irritating her by following her, poking her on fb, texting her, so that he could get a chance to use her and throw away.
And this is the truth whereas
When a guy shows this(above) paragraph to a girl and says m not this type of guy and acts wise and says i respect girls, is the REALITY.
There are 2 out of every 100 boys who really respect a girl.
And those are called gentlemen.

Nowadays 99.8% realtionships be like,
You saw a girl that is damn pretty, sexy or whatever you say. You first passed a smile, flaunted your wealth, tge approach her, if you get rejected then trouble her until she agrees and when she agrees the days spent are as follows:-
• 1st Day - The phone numbers are exchanged and you have late night calls and chats.
• 2nd Day - Take her out on a date and surprise her qitha gift.
•3rd Day - Go for a walk and suddenly touch her hand and hold it
•4th Day - You want a hug
•5th Day - You need a kiss
•6th Day - Calls her shona, mona, baby , babbu, mera cutipie etc
•8th Day- Promises to remain in relation with her and get married
•10th Day - You need sex
•16th Day - You are bored with her
•24th Day - You go out for roaming alone and sees a damn hot girl and thinks about her
•26th Day- Fucking excuses to leave her
•28th Day - Girl did a single mistake amd you got a chance to leave her.
• 30th Day - Breakup

And the thing continues .......

But !

There are 0.1% those guys or should i say gentlemen who know how to treat their girl and how to respect her. All they have is trust and spend life happily.

But then comes 0.1% people who are not goodlooking or say not wealthy or the ones who dont believe in relationships. Because they cant change themselves for others and they are one of the happiest peoples.

Now the next big problem is double facing.
This society consists mainly those people who makes profit from two opponents and settles his life.These type of people are selfish because they ruin other lives and make theirs happy.

Then there are those who cheat.
There are many people who cheat the ones who supported them in thwir tough times.

............. To be continued

All these aspects mentioned are based on the visulisations and happenings in my life.

I ve seen people changing with time.

But then there are those who stay with me even in my toughest time and motivate me..

In my life i have observed one thing....
No matter how rich you are, how much fame do you earn, either you have a lamborghini or a cruze, happiness or sadneess, there are some people who will simply ignore or hate you and will never be satisified just because
........
Its You

Stay tuned because theres more to come...

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Monday 7 March 2016

Get Up - Absolute Motivation

If you want to live an extraordinary you must do extraordinary
But you must demand it, if you wish it you must demand it of yourself.
We all have problems but what I’m trying to telling you is this that don’t be consumed with them.
Problems are a part of life but guess what, they’re not life. Inside of every single problem that might be causing you to worry and creates stress for you is a gorgeous opportunity to build an even better business or build an even better life or install a better belief. So the secret to real happiness is progress.
Progress equals happiness. And if we can make progress on a regular basis we feel alive.
So if you want to make real progress then youve really got to look at your life in a different way.
You’ve got to say, I’ve got to take control of this process and not just hope it’s gonna work out.
You’ve got to keep picking yourself up and reaching for it.
You can get through this.
You will get through this.
You must get through this.
You are going to get through this.
You need to get outside your comfort zone.
It’s not about taking risks, it’s about getting outside your comfort zone.

When did you define yourself?

I mean really, how many years ago did you come up with what you could and couldn’t do in your life?

How many years ago?
So often in our lives we’ve adapted to be a certain way so that we don’t fail or so that people will like us or respect us but it’s not necessarily who we are.
It doesn’t matter how you get knocked down in life because that’s going to happen.
All that matters is that you’ve got to get up.
You can’t turn back the clock right?
The only thing you can do is learn from it.
And that hopefully you’ll never make the mistake again.If anybody who’s on the downside of advantage, relying purely on courage,It’s possible.

It’s possible.

Think of the 3 biggest discourages in your life.
They’re not your biggest discourages, you are.
I believe there’s a hero in all of us.
That keeps us honest.
That gives us strength.
That makes us noble.
And finally allows us to die with pride.
But if you’re ambition is to fulfil your heart's calling.
You’ll always be cared for, you’ll always be taken care of. Your needs, not your wants,
you’re needs will always be met,
when you’re following your heart's calling.

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Friday 4 March 2016

Exams! Worst thing that was ever introduced.

When a student is told that his exams are coming, he forgets his happiness for a couple of minutes and thinks," Exams! Omg, i have to study. My mom wont let me play. My parents wont let me go out. I would have to study for hours. I cant play games. My result will be bad." Etc etc

All these things surround him.

He/she wastes his few days thinking the same and couldn't concentrate.

He feels depressed.

During exams days parents tell their kids to study hard and get good marks in order to get a reward.

I guess every kid scored excellent marks when he/she was in primary school.

Why?

Because that was a fun learning experience.
You were taught through animated cartoon pictures. It was a fun learning experience.

But

When you went to high school. You were introduced to so many subjects with minimum of 12 chapters for the each. You were taught to cram each and every line which has no use in future...... which made your grades get low.

Teacher's have marking schemes and i guess everybody knows this... if you write exactly the same . You get marks but when something is out of the box then your answer is automatically a cross. And they give u 0 wheter the info u gave was right but was not in the book..

Hell!
What do these people think. All students scoring above 85% are toppers.
But who knows who worked hard..
either a guy scoring 34% or a guy scoring 94%.

Now lets take an example,
There are two guys "A" and "B".
Guy A was working very hard through out exams. He slept for few hours.
Guy B was not at all studying. He enjoyed his entire day playing COC.
On the result day guy A got 81% and guy B got 97%. Everyone praised guy B..

Why?

Lets rewind.

Guy B just before leaving the school took blank answersheets home. He wrote all the material on that sheet of the respective exam and took it to exam. As the sheet was of the school no one doubted. The he matched the answers and wrote on his sheet and threw the sheet out of the window which he had brought from home. This way he did it in every exam.

So thats the reason why guy B stood first.

The society that we are living in asks always value results..

They dont care how much u study or how you study. All they need is result. They dont see the story behind the success and they dont ever bother.

There's a saying from the movie Fast and Furious-" if you win by an inch or a mile, winning is winning."

So what does it mean.

You got it right..

But in our society. There's no second place. Either you are first or you are last.. There is no second no averge.

What is observed during examinations is that
● students are fainting during exams
● some forget everything just after getting question paper.
● some just lost their control and get anxious when they see the question paper.
And many more things....

Is this life ?
Is this the way of teaching ?
Is this method of spreading knowledge ?

You call this examination.....
I call it spoiling life..

The CBSE is playing with the life of students.. no one ever noticed
Everytime it introduces a new scheme and demolishes it. The most recent one CCE (Continuous and Comprehensive Evaluation) which was introduced a long back ago is now being shut down..

Exams should be like having fun not stress.
Introducing a game for exams.....

Make it a fun learning experience..

If one of us raises a voice, we can change everything.

I raised a voice and if u support me we can change this world...

...... to be continued

#peace

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